Spouses or partners who decide to divorce or separate have choices to make about how to proceed – choices that will affect the process (adversarial or cooperative?) and the outcome, both emotionally and financially.   If you are facing those choices, I recommend you do some homework first.  The following books are thoughtful guides to the terrain you are about to enter.

Ahrons, Constance, The Good Divorce, Harper Paperbacks (1998).

Ahrons, Constance, We’re Still Family:  What Grown Children Have to Say About Their Parents’ Divorce, Harper Paperbacks (2005).

Cochran, Cate, Reconcilable Differences: Marriages End, Families Don't, Second Story Press (2007).

Ousky, Ron and Webb, Stuart, The Collaborative Way to Divorce:  The Revolutionary Method that Results in Less Stress, Lower Costs, and Happier Kids -- Without Going to Court,  Hudson Street Press (2006).

Tesler, Pauline and Thompson, Peggy, Collaborative Divorce:  The Revolutionary New Way to Restructure Your Family, Resolve Legal Issues, and Move On With Your Life, ReganBooks/Harper Collins (2006).